December 7, 2013

Snow Day

      Growing up in a latin country I find myself experiencing a lot of things for the first time. Today we got up early and headed out to get our daughter a snow coat and right on time because on our morning walk it started to snow and it has been snowing for 6 hours straight. On days like this it is so tempting to complain but once I got a moment of peace I looked out the window and just thought how beautiful it all is… It's amazing how the snow changes the world around you. It makes you want to slow down and read a book, or just snuggle with a cup of hot chocolate.
       So this morning I finally got to decorate our christmas tree and as you can imagine a one and a-half year-old can't help but tip the tree at least once. It's a good thing it made me laugh.

      Everyday I change, in one moment I'll go from being frustrated with everything because nothing seems to be working out and the next... my joy for life increases ten-fold and things like my daughter acting her own age no longer take from that joy. And I sometimes actually remember to laugh and enjoy the day to day things. Everyday brings its challenges but if we remember to find joy in all things, we can truly find happiness.

October 14, 2013

Sufficating in my own expectations.

       Some days are harder then others and for me today was one of those days. In the last week we managed to survive a move but today I feel so stressed about getting everything unpacked and making our new place feel like home that I just couldn't enjoy it.
       My dd has been so clingy lately that I can't get anything done unless she is asleep or crying at my legs. It makes for a stressed momma. After being stressed and annoyed most of the day I read a post from Shannon over at "Life after I 'Dew'" here. And I realized that my dd and husband need me to have more patience. I hadn't even noticed it but I need to be more patient with myself. All day I think about the things I want to or need to get done and I forget to just enjoy the time I have with my family. After reading Shannon's blog I decided to spend time with my daughter, we had so much fun it was great. I think it was just what she needed and it was definitely what I needed. Enjoying life becomes difficult when you stop smelling the roses.
       At the peak of my stress today I even got mad with my hubby because I felt crowded all the time. I just wanted space and it turns out all I needed was to have fun and to relax. I'm the only one that even notices when it is messy so why stress about it. I want to work on changing my expectations of myself so I can just smell the roses and call it a day. The dishes, laundry, unpacking can all wait for tomorrow but my family's well being can't wait.

October 8, 2013

New Adventures

        After a lot of crazy changes this summer things are finally working out. Its amazing how after waiting and working towards something it finally pays off. Being laid off is hard at first we were excited to start something new but as the weeks went by it got a lot harder to feel any motivation at all. But in the end we finally found what we needed and with that comes a move. Yep. We have to pack up all our belongings, clean our apartment and unpack in a new place. Boy, I'm not looking forward to that part but I'm so ready to move on and start a new live after being students for so long. 
       Wish us all goes well!

October 6, 2013

Letter to the World

       This weekend The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints is broadcasting their General Conference. I have been a member since being baptized at the age of 8 but just this weekend I have started to realize the necessity of sharing the gospel ourselves and I now believe more fully in its truthfulness.
      Life treats people unfairly. For millions of people life is almost unbearable. Suffering exists universally. From small trivial things to devastation in many parts of the world. There is an outlet for the pain and suffering all people experience. And it comes in the form of the Atonement. Jesus Christ the Begotten Son suffered all things for us. He experienced all of our pain and suffering willingly. He wants us to have peace and happiness in our lives. Believing in Christ and in the Atonement will not guarantee peace and happiness but it holds a promise that if we try with all our hearts to be loving, caring and to serve others. We can have peace and happiness in the next life.
    Being a member of the church I realized how often we members fail to share this great blessing with those around us. All human beings deserve the Atonement in their lives and the only way to bring that about is to share it ourselves. Even members of the church that attend regularly need to be reminded that they don't need to suffer alone though trials. In Mosiah 18:8 it says:

8 And it came to pass that he said unto them: Behold, here are the waters of Mormon (for thus were they called) and now, as ye are adesirous to come into the bfold of God, and to be called his people, and are willing to bear one another’s burdens, that they may be light;  
 9 Yea, and are awilling to mourn with those that bmourn; yea, and comfort those that stand in need of comfort, and to stand as cwitnesses of God at all times and in all things, and in all places that ye may be in, even until death, that ye may be redeemed of God, and be numbered with those of the dfirst resurrection, that ye may have eternal life—"(http://www.lds.org/scriptures/bofm/mosiah/18.8-9)

     As members of the church we have the responsibility to be there for our sisters and brothers. We need to reach out our voices to all those around us, even to those that seem to have the perfect family. All people suffer their own problems. Be there for your neighbor, your friend, for your family and even for those you don't know.
     Remember you are never alone in your affliction.

April 8, 2013

Changes make me nervous.

      Why hello Monday morning so nice to see you again.
      After taking a short trip last week with my sister I came home to a house in desperate need of cleaning and no motivation. Life is just so unfair. :(
      On a brighter note my dear husband is graduation this month and I'm very excited. Since we got married he has been working on finishing his bachelor degree and as many wife's of students know it has been stressful. As a wife I've tried to support him as much as possible, to allow him time in the evenings to do homework even though I would prefer to just spend time with him.
      Once he finishes I can finally spend some time on myself, its not like he doesn't help out with the little one, he's just busy all the time.  I can't wait until we can spend the evenings together or go out on weekends and spend some time as a family.
     This will be a huge change that I'm a bit nervous about. Going from poor college students to the working class will be very different. Especially with all that comes with it.


March 26, 2013

Finding happiness though challenges.

       Over the last few weeks I've realized how I have never taken the time to find out who I am and what I want to do with my life. Of course there are some basics like being a mother but I'm not one to focus on myself.
       I started college without really knowing what I wanted to study or who I was as a person. And then I got married in my sophomore year. By our 6 month anniversary I was 3 months pregnant and boy that was a ride. It was very difficult for me to switch from being a college student to being a stay at home wife and later on a mother. To this day I struggle with it. At times I walk though my old campus and remember all the fun I had as a student and a part of me wants to turn back time so I could take the time to find myself. But, that's not possible. Instead after almost 9 months of taking care of my daughter, I am finally taking the time to just enjoy my life and who I am.
      I am a stay at home mom and I really love it. It's taking me a long time to realize that it was my job to take care of a household, of making meals, and taking care of all the needs of my daughter. That is a big part of who I am. Another part of me is a daughter of God and I live my life to live up to that position. I try to read the scriptures daily and to go to church weekly but at times it is difficult to take care of the needs of my daughter let alone my own needs.
      I have a need to be spiritual and that alone makes me strong enough to do all I'm asked to do in this life. That doesn't mean it is easy to wake up 5 or 6 times a night to take care of a child but it helps me remember that it won't last forever. That someday I won't have a little girl needing me but I'll be an old lady with plenty of time to do what I desire to do.
     This life is to grow and improve though challenges so that someday we may be allowed into the presence of God, that is where true happiness lies.  

March 13, 2013

The highs and lows of life.

      It amazes me how difficulties come up daily. I feel like we finally manage a balance and things are going great as a family and the next thing you know something comes up and take you back down. When times get hard I usually wish the good times would last longer but then I realized we wouldn't appreciate the good things if bad things didn't exist.
      Something I truly believe is that our happiness will be comparable to our suffering. We have to suffer to be happy, even though I really wish there were another way.

February 7, 2013

Welcome to my blog!

Hi. I'm a stay at home wife of a college student and mother of a 7 month old baby girl. I started a blog to write about my dreams, goals, accomplishments and the struggles of daily life.
After reading a free e-book made by Ann Luther, author of My Life and Kids I decided to find joy by sharing my struggles with others. Being a stay-at-home mom is hard. I constantly struggle with being positive and enjoying life.  Things seem to be easier when you can laugh about it with others. My plan is to give myself time to be a person and to be happy. 

Life is hard so we need to toughen up and remember what we have.